Blow Job & Cunnilingus

Last Friday was my friend, Krista’s 26th birthday. To celebrate the pyrrhic gift of life bestowed on her by God, she hosted a slumber party (this time boys were invited) at her apartment.

There was enough food, drinks, ice cream, cigarettes, weed and sex to go round. We danced, talked and played games – like spin the bottle, truth or dare and devil’s mail bag. It was definitely a memorable night.
The games were fun and interesting. A lot of questions were thrown to the floor and as expected, it all got dirty and erotic.

It was during the game of truth or dare; a question was thrown to the floor by one of the lads, Emeka. He asked “have you ever blown a guy? In fact do you give head?” Like play, like play, all the girls vehemently answered “NO”. I was flabbergasted and perplexed at the impetus at which they all responded in unionism.

Note at this juncture; the alcohol hadn’t undergone the first pass effect. For the non-medical ones, the first pass effect is the first stage of drug absorption via the oral route in which the concentration of a drug is greatly reduced before it gets to the systemic circulation and yes! Alcohol is a drug; an outrageous one for that matter and in its case, the first pass effect is grossly influenced by the speed of gastric emptying. Pardon my use of medical jargons.

The girls threw the questions back at us. Well, you know guys and self-overvaluation, the ones I knew hated the act of oral sex claimed to love it while the chronic cunnilingus masters lied about it.

Karma, they say, is a bitch; just make sure that bitch is beautiful. When the time for some sweating came, if you know what I mean, the girls were freely blowing the lads and the self-acclaimed cunnilingus experts were found wanting.

Then, I started wondering why some of us lie about the act of oral sex (blow job/cunnilingus)? Is it about ego? What about morals? Privacy nko? I couldn’t come up with a definite and concrete answer so I sought the opinion of sexologists. Unfortunately, they didn’t have much to say either but I was made to know it is not for everyone, and there’s nothing necessarily wrong with you if you don’t like to give or receive it.

Men and women have different views and needs regarding this and we are not going to change each other. Some guys lie at the slightest opportunity when asked by their peers if they go down on girls, na these kind guys dey wash their babes pant sef. Girls also lie to their peers and to that handsome dude they just met. I don’t know if it is because they don’t want to be tagged a weakling or give the idea that they are naughty or that they are just reluctant to admit and own up to their actions.

Why do we lie about oral sex?

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38 Replies to “Blow Job & Cunnilingus”

  1. I think the girls don’t want to be seen as cheap and the dudes don’t want to be seen as weak. Also most Nigerians shy away from explicit discussions on their sex life.

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  2. Give a gal a head and do it well, she iz all urs. Only inexperienced people don’t ♥ em fore play. Blowing n heading is seriously allowed. Its not always about going in to dangle. Enjoy sex n every sexual act. Buh please its berra done wen married. N if it must be done before marriage, pls both parries must wash up. (Just saying)

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  3. D problem wif us here I̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ Africa ȋ̊s we all calm to hold our morals and cultural beliefs I̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ high esteem…….buh we go on to do hideous tins behind closed doors!!! People don’t like talking abt their sex life cos its private buh I̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ a forum like dis U̶̲̥̅̊ don’t have to lie just to look good cos I̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ d end its ur life. Wot people tink abt U̶̲̥̅̊ don’t matter…..I̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ d end its U̶̲̥̅̊ and ur maker! So if U̶̲̥̅̊ enjoy oral sex…..”Blow urself away” cos I̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ d end na d same hell fire all of una go land!!!!

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  4. No bro. I don’t discuss it with mi guys. I prefer showing †̥ђe̶̲̥̅ gal. U̶̲̥̅̊ don’t want me to delve deep into this buh men †̥ђe̶̲̥̅ truth be told, its nofin to be ashamed of. Its only a spice for sex. Read more on †̥ђe̶̲̥̅ various acts n don’t forget to practice. Just saying bro. Winks n smiles

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  5. Its a private but pple talk abt it… Just like U said it all depends on d person…. Besides dere was foreplay before blowjobs. Wat I mean is pple can hv foreplay witout a blowjob being involved. And pple just actn all sophiscated coz dey gv BJs is plain silly. I for one am not a fan,it doesn’t just sit rite wit me. But pple who like, should go on rite ahead and enjoy

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  6. How safe is oral sex. After protecting using a condom for protection during vaginal penetration, how do you protect yourself when using your mouth? Sex outside marriage will always remain dangerous, so save it all for marriage then you can do anything without limits and you can be bold to say I do this even if I don’t really like it but because my spouse enjoys it and because I love him or her I have to please the one I love. Nobody has a final say in your life except you, their opinion of you being a weakling doesn’t count as long as u say so……..that’s in marriage

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  7. When pole can comfortably say that they partake in foreplay before sex,they seem to forget that oral sex is a huge and foremost part of foreplay. So, let’s me honest with ourselves,every Nigerian male or female that is sexually active has experienced oral sex. Whether they like it or not is a different case. To like it means that u actually wish to pleasure ur partner and that’s what sets u apart from the next guy/gal.

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  8. the question remains…….how safe is oral sex.
    Weda or not it is to be discussed wit friends or in a forum is dependent on an individual’s comfort zone.

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  9. Enuf wit love talk*rme*D question is “y do peple lie about it”nt “what state of mind should u be in to do it”Pple lie kuz d idea of head is generali repulsive t a great majority.Kinda like dey dnt wnt t b seen as nasty 4 doin such a gross thing.Personali I dnt see nyfin wrong wit it;If its ur fin den by all means knock urself out

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  10. I belive in full erotic exploration cos sex is meant to b enjoyed. But is worth watin for, shd b done at d ryt tym wit dat ryt person””” U knw wat I mean…..

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