If I Could Turn Back The Hands of Time

 

My church, All Saints Church G.R.A Enugu, celebrated the harvest of children this past sunday.

As I watched the kids’ performance in awe, I fell into a trance, more of reverie per se. I couldn’t help but remember when I was like them; how I sang sweet melodies like Panam Percy Paul’s Bring Down Your Glory with my Macy Gray-like voice and how I dazzled the church congregation with a flawless recitation of the Gospel according to John Chapter 1, I flowed like a BOSS (Huhh).

Oh Yes! I was that incorrigible cool kid your parents wanted you to be like. 

Those were memorable and happy moments I will cherish till the day I go six feet under the ground.

Childhood is the most exciting stage of our lives. I’m pretty sure most of you would love to rewind the hands of time to when he/she was as innocent as a bird, when things were less complicated, no job stress, no relationship headache and no bill to pay.

However, not everybody shares this lovely tale. Some had a dark experience and would love to leave that part of their life history in the past. Some were raped, molested and abused as kids. Others weren’t lucky and lost a parent or two to the cold hands of death early in life.

If you had the power to turn back the hands of time, what would you change/correct in your life?

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Peer Pressure: Good or Bad?

 

It is a natural phenomenon for us to copy and want to be like the people we admire in life. The struggle to fit in at all cost has made a lot of us to do what we wouldn’t do on a normal day. Peer pressure is tantamount with the youths; after all we spend most of our day in the company of friends more than our parents and siblings.

As kids, our parents choose the kids we hang out with; preferably kids of their friends. As we grow, we fight to remove the shackles our parents have on us and choose our clique of friends. Most times, we choose people who have similar interests, beliefs and experiences to ours. Together, you and your friends make decisions and influence each other every day.

Making decisions on your own and standing your ground is worrisome; but when other people are drawn in and try to pressure; it gets more worrisome. Friends affect and influence our lives even without us realizing it, just by spending time with us.

Psychologist Wendy Treynor described peer pressure as “Identity Shift Effect”. One’s state of harmony is disrupted when faced with the threat of external conflict or failing to conform to a group’s standard. Thus, we conform to the group’s standard but as soon as one does, eliminating this external conflict, internal conflict is introduced. To rid oneself of this internal conflict, an identity shift is undertaken where one adopts the group standards as one’s own, thereby eliminating internal conflict; returning one to a state of harmony.

To me, Peer Pressure is the hassle by friends for us to do something we don’t want to do. It doesn’t have to be  negative; it could also be positive .

For instance, on the negative side, most of my mates started lighting a cigarette as far back as JS2/3. Even though some didn’t want to be part of it but because they were scared to be labelled a Jew man, they gave in to peer pressure and they are hooked. Others started snubbing some people because their clique frowned at the sight of them talking with the unpopular ones alias nerds/jew men.

Positively, friends’ pressure can help us learn a lot of things like a new skill. In my primary school days, after watching soccer stars like Diego Maradona, Roberto Carlos, Raul Gonzalez and Savio; I believed left-legged players had more shot power than those who play with the right leg so I pressured my friend Chife for us to learn how to play football comfortably with both legs and we did it!

Some years ago, I had a near death experience that left me incarcerated in a hospital for some months. Then, I was an under graduate in my 400L. With exams lurking, I lost hope of writing the exams and made up my mind I was going to spend an extra year in school but my friend didn’t want to hear any of it and sent me an SMS I will never forget. She said “if there’s anybody I know that can pull this off, it’s you”. Those eleven words urged me to read and instantly, energy from nowhere sprang up in me and I started flying like those men you see in Red Bull commercials. I wrote that exam from the hospital and came out with flying colours.

As we grow older, peers naturally play a greater role in our lives. Due to the amount of time we spend together, we develop close bond with our peers and may feel so connected to them that they are like an extended family.

So do you think peer pressure is good or bad?

Did You Know?

 

Chinua Achebe was given bursary to study Medicine and Surgery at University of Ibadan but switched to English, Literature and Theology after a year.  

University of Ibadan also produced Nobel award winner Wole Soyinka, poet Christopher Okigbo, novelist Elechi Amadi and Novelist cum poet John JP Pepper Clark. If you read that yellow bible West African Verse back in the day, you would be conversant with these names.

Cyprian Ekwensi studied Pharmacy at Yaba Technical Institute, Lagos School of Pharmacy, and the Chelsea School of Pharmacy of the University of London.

The London 2012 Olympics Opening ceremony cost 27 million pounds; that of Beijing 2008 cost 64 million pounds.

Russia’s Vladimir Putin brought a large dog with him to a round of negotiations with Germany’s Angela Merkel – knowing she had a pathological fear of dogs – in order to gain a psychological edge.

You can get a heart attack from an intense orgasm.

Al Gore is the only person to have won the Grammy, Emmy, Oscar and Nobel awards.

There’s a scientific paper that proposed to classify happiness as a psychiatric disorder.

The actress who plays Talisa from “Game of Thrones” is Charlie Chaplin’s grand daughter.

Arsene Wenger pockets a whooping 7million pounds every year in wages.

J.R.R Tolkien typed the entire Lord of The Rings while using only two fingers

The gravestone J.R.R Tolkien and the wife is inscribed with “Luthien” and “Beren”. Two tragic legendary characters in LOTR who were madly in love.

The Norse god “THOR” had to dress like a woman to get his hammer back.

Eating out of boredom is a habit we develop as a toddler and re-inforce throughout our life.

Hugging and holding hands with your lover warms the heart and greatly reduces the harmful effects of stress.

Having no friends has the same effect on life expectancy as smoking 15 cigarettes everyday.

Stupidity is contagious; a study finds.

Psychologists find that exposure to awesome things is good for you.

Tug of war was once an official Olympic sport.

Over a million Europeans were taken as slaves by North Africans between 1530 and 1780.

Murphy law states that “Anything that can go wrong will go wrong”

Internet was first called “The Galactic Network” when it was created.

Wikipedia has banned all users and IP address affiliated with Church of Scientology.

A boy spent 60,000 pounds on surgery to look like Britney Spears.

Vincent Kompany turned down move to big clubs like Manchester United in his teenage years in order to complete his University education in Belgium. He recently signed up for a masters’ degree in Business Administration at Manchester Business School and will commence lectures this September.

Beyonce was home schooled, she never left her house for school; she is reportedly allergic to perfumes.

Mikel Arteta played in the same Paris Saint Germain team with Jay Jay Okocha and Ronaldinho.                                                                                                                            

Football was actually invented in China – first reports of the game can be found in writings dating from around 476BC, when it was cuju and involved players kicking a leather ball through a hole in a piece.

There is a book called “The Vagina Ass of Lucifer Nigger Bastard”

British-born, ex-Nigerian international, Efan Ekoku is the first player to score more than 3goals in an EPL match; he scored four in the 5-1 drubbing of Everton at Goodison Park in 1992.