Gossip: We All Do That Shit

Gossip is so tasty – how we love to swallow it –Proverbs 18vs 8

Gossip is an ancient means of conveying and sharing facts, views and slur. It is described as the casual conversation or unseen reports about people; the idle rumour talk about private or personal affairs of others.

People have diverse views about gossip. Eleanor Roosevelt said “Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people” while Mercedes Lackey said “It’s only gossip if you repeat it until then its gathering information.”

Some perceive it as a free-minded way of disseminating information while others see it as a sin (Biblically, it is placed on par with sexual immorality and murder), hurtful and character defamation. The truth is that we all gossip; one way or the other. We gossip in church, school, at work place, market, mall, social gatherings, home…in fact everywhere. Pretending that none of us is a gossip is a farce.

After all, nobody is perfect and everyone has a flaw to gossip about. For instance, you hear an interesting story/rumour and you find it very hard to digest it alone, so you tell Mr A, if only he swears not to disclose what you’ve told him. Iya! Before you say Jack Robinson, your story has spread round the school, church, work place, etc and the world in general (no thanks to the internet).

Nowadays, gossip sells like sex and it spreads like wild fire. The E! Channel is one TV Station, that is dedicated to gossips and fabulous life of the rich and famous and we are aware of their success. Most magazines and newspapers now have columns for gossip because it surely catches the attention of the readers.

I am of the school of thought that people who gossip ‘A LOT’ are those with low self esteem who desire to fit in at all cost. Some people, especially the ladies, can’t converse with you for 10minutes without gossiping.

Traditionally, women get a lot of criticism for gossiping or should I say gisting as they call it. A male who gossips is a girl’s best friend/companion.

A feminist definition of gossip presents it as “a way of talking between women, intimate in style, personal and domestic in scope and settling, a female cultural event which springs from and perpetuates the restrictions of the female role but also gives the comfort or validation.” (Jones, 1990)

Men and women gossip but there’s a huge gap in the way both sexes gossip. Men talk about cars, sports, alcohol, women, money, weed etc so it endears them to each other, while the female folk whimper and whisper about physical appearance and relationships.

The general rule for gossip is to mind your own business. You don’t want a nosy parker prying in your affairs, so you owe it to them to show them the same amount of respect.

This said, next time you come across some spicy and tasty news, you can use your “fork ear” to sieve the ones you want to assimilate or you can use your “spoon ear” and swallow the news with all the impurities but remember shut your buccal cavity and observe how proceedings unwrap.

The Mind of A Teenage Dirtbag

My secondary school years have to the best years of my life on earth. Those years were memorable; the experiences I had, the educational and social activities I engaged in, helped in shaping and transforming me into the man I am today.

I enjoyed the best of both worlds: my grades were good and I had a pretty good relationship with a lot of people.

Recently, I ran into an old friend who said something that inspired this write up, he said he can’t wait to see the people who saw him as a loser/nobody, to see what he’s become today.

Have you noticed that some people still have no love lost for the people who offended them back in secondary school?

I will never understand what they passed through back then that made them loathe these people for whatever reason. I tried persuading him to let go of those childhood memories but all I said fell on deaf ears. I believe those things happened a long time ago before we became adults, some have forgotten they bullied, looked down and made fun of you.

A friend told me its easy for me to say because I wasn’t a prey back in the day. The truth is that I was little and people mocked me because of my height but it still didn’t make me think less of myself.

The victims have a hidden agenda against these predators/truants and are bent on teaching them a lesson or two later in life. These memories they are holding onto, are the main reason why they are proud, arrogant, egocentric, braggarts, have low self esteem and ready to do anything to be noticed.

I implore people to let bygones be bygones and get on with their lives. We all did and said a lot of things out of youthful exuberance that shouldn’t be used to judge us today.