Last Friday was my friend, Krista’s 26th birthday. To celebrate the pyrrhic gift of life bestowed on her by God, she hosted a slumber party (this time boys were invited) at her apartment.
There was enough food, drinks, ice cream, cigarettes, weed and sex to go round. We danced, talked and played games – like spin the bottle, truth or dare and devil’s mail bag. It was definitely a memorable night.
The games were fun and interesting. A lot of questions were thrown to the floor and as expected, it all got dirty and erotic.
It was during the game of truth or dare; a question was thrown to the floor by one of the lads, Emeka. He asked “have you ever blown a guy? In fact do you give head?” Like play, like play, all the girls vehemently answered “NO”. I was flabbergasted and perplexed at the impetus at which they all responded in unionism.
Note at this juncture; the alcohol hadn’t undergone the first pass effect. For the non-medical ones, the first pass effect is the first stage of drug absorption via the oral route in which the concentration of a drug is greatly reduced before it gets to the systemic circulation and yes! Alcohol is a drug; an outrageous one for that matter and in its case, the first pass effect is grossly influenced by the speed of gastric emptying. Pardon my use of medical jargons.
The girls threw the questions back at us. Well, you know guys and self-overvaluation, the ones I knew hated the act of oral sex claimed to love it while the chronic cunnilingus masters lied about it.
Karma, they say, is a bitch; just make sure that bitch is beautiful. When the time for some sweating came, if you know what I mean, the girls were freely blowing the lads and the self-acclaimed cunnilingus experts were found wanting.
Then, I started wondering why some of us lie about the act of oral sex (blow job/cunnilingus)? Is it about ego? What about morals? Privacy nko? I couldn’t come up with a definite and concrete answer so I sought the opinion of sexologists. Unfortunately, they didn’t have much to say either but I was made to know it is not for everyone, and there’s nothing necessarily wrong with you if you don’t like to give or receive it.
Men and women have different views and needs regarding this and we are not going to change each other. Some guys lie at the slightest opportunity when asked by their peers if they go down on girls, na these kind guys dey wash their babes pant sef. Girls also lie to their peers and to that handsome dude they just met. I don’t know if it is because they don’t want to be tagged a weakling or give the idea that they are naughty or that they are just reluctant to admit and own up to their actions.
Why do we lie about oral sex?